As much as I love Find A Grave, there are times that I absolutely hate it. Today is one of those days. I have a set of 2nd great grandparents that have always been a mystery. A few years ago I set out to find who they were.
I started with John Johnson Butler. I was able to find that he married Sarah Rebecca in Lowndes County, Alabama on 12 Jan 1837. That was it. Before that neither of them ever existed.
I was able to track them to Union Parish and their travels after that but nothing before they married. I am sure there is something out there, but do you have any idea how many John Butlers were born in North Carolina?
The only thing I had to go on was Robert Clinton Webb. He was a older man who seemed to be everywhere the Butlers were. They worked together. They lived close together. John and Rebecca even named a son after him, Robert Clinton Butler. Their oldest daughter was Mary, as in Mary E. “Polly” Webb, Robert’s wife.
There was no evidence to prove Robert and Mary were her parents. I am convinced they are but I only put it on my private tree.
I then took the DNA test. Right off the bat I got results that said I was related to all the descendants of Robert and Mary. I didn’t want to just say they were Rebecca’s parents, so I went through every one of those cousins. I found nothing to say they were related to me some other way.
About that time a distant cousin on FAG asked me to add some of my great grandmother’s sibling to Rebecca’s memorial. That was when I saw she had Rebecca buried at the same cemetery as her husband. That would not be a problem but most people believe she is buried at another cemetery. Neither of them have a marker and there are no burial records. I asked her about it but she never got back to me.
Today I looked at the memorial again. She now has Rebecca with parents and siblings. She has two sisters also named Sarah and and two brothers named James. I found that the family had lived in Georgia and Alabama but not in the counties that Sarah lived in or got married it.
Now everybody and their brother are going to go with this and there is no proof of any of it. I wish Find A Grave would not allow people to put just anything they want on there without any evidence at all.